Is it just me or has the romantic movies we always watch seem to be failing you? Like of course we end up watching these absolutely heart wrenching movies of the perfect love story that we tend to dream of while we think to ourselves “ugh, i love love”, almost like we’re window shopping for the perfect relationship— but, i mean it’s absolutely impossible to stay away from them. Tell the truth, it gives hope to the human heart.. that if this very directed movie could possibly come up with this perfect story of two people who actually have the capacity to love one another then maybe it’s out there? Maybe you’ve got to be like sleeping beauty and just simply lie there and wait for your hubby to come or maybe you’ve got to be like Tiana, who was miss-independent until she wasn’t. The point is — the problem isn’t the falsehood of romance or the lack of integrity in the real world to actually have the desire to find the love in movies (although, it’s a huge part of it), the problem is that we’re looking at princes who are not princes. We’re admiring the prince that won’t even put on the glass slipper that we’ve left behind. We’re putting our eggs into a basket that has the capacity of carrying quite literally almost to none of the eggs we’ve got. We’re settling for luke-warm love.. (and yes i would like to take some time to blame romantic movies for failing us to show us what real love is. ) What i mean by luke-warm love is exactly that, hot & cold love. In with one foot and out with the other. Sleeping in the same bed yet if one thing goes wrong, we have a bag packed and ready to go. Actions not matching words or words not even being spoken enough to match actions. I mean, i’ve been there. Begging for a guy to stay and love me.. trying to offer him literally every single part of myself so that he could change his mind and stay and still— it wasn’t enough for him. Was that just me and did i trauma dump on you? Or can you relate? Or what about, loving a guy who loved someone else. Or just simply not knowing the answers to why he didn’t want to you but wanted to love someone else? Am i stepping on some toes here?
I want you to understand that i have experienced the heartbreak too. I have experienced enough to know why your settling. I have experienced enough to know why you won’t leave. I have experienced enough to know why sleeping around feels better than just being with one guy. Almost all of the answers come down to fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of not finding “the one”. Fear of not being enough. Fear of losing yourself. The thing about love from people is that there love will never be enough. You can be in the most beautiful and loving relationship and still it will not be enough for you because your heart and entire being was made for 1 specific person. Yawheh. (Which is God’s name, if anyone is like “um, who’s that?”). He designed you for Him. He created you for Him. In the midst of making and forming your substance, He had this beautiful picture of you and Him in His mind. A picture of you knowing what real love is just by knowing Him. A picture of you running in a field of flowers— free and kept safe in His arms from heartbreak and the fragility of man’s love. You as a little girl and Him being everything you’ve ever wanted since then because your desire for a prince never changed or faded.
See, the idea of love to God isn’t the way that we see love or imagine it to be. My God, if it was we’d be out of hope. God’s definition of love is sacrifice. And yes, you maybe be thinking “of course i see love as sacrificing.” But i mean — Jesus type of sacrificing. There is no human who has the capability of doing what Jesus did— yes we can say we will die for the ones we love until the sun goes down but to understand that Jesus was God sent here in human form, because He so compassionately said “I have to go through every single thing they go through. I have to understand these people who cannot reach my standards of holiness.” Instead of throwing in the towel on you and me, He so humbly came and decided to die by human hands just so that you & i can be with Him forever. That’s it. That’s all. I don’t care what anyone says there is no person on this earth that can love you the way that God has already loved you. You’ve got to understand that He did it because nobody else could. They could say they will die for you and maybe they really mean it— but the point is it wouldn’t be enough. The whole point is that God shed His blood for you in order to save you and that’s love. Love is not medicine that comes and goes, it’s not sex and netflix. It’s not even a house and children. Love is the man who got on the cross for you because you needed saving, more than you could possibly understand.. and even knowing that you would choose a regular man, a prince that would not chase after you to put on your glass slipper that you left behind, a guy who doesn’t even have a basket to put your eggs in, a guy who simply isn’t God but is everything else — He still died for you anyway. Whether you would love Him back or not, He loved/loves you anyway. That’s love.
And here we are, skipping past the movies about Jesus and the crucifixtion when that alone is literally the romance of a lifetime. Calling people who tell us “Jesus loves you” annoying when that alone is existing proof that real love still exists— To have the God of the universe so relentlessly pursuing you, while you are constantly running away from Him— that is love.. not the princesses in the stories who find their prince and get saved. The love story is already written in your life, you’ve just got to want the real love story instead of the fake one. You have the prince you’ve dreamed of all your life, the perfect man is already here, it’s up to you to take His hand.
It’s brave to want the real love story. Not too many people want it. It’s worth being brave for. My God is it worth being brave for.
Be brave.
Psalm 62: 11-12 “God said to me once and for all, “All the strength and power you need flows from me!” And again I heard it clearly said, “All the love you need is found in me!” And it’s true that you repay people for what they do.”
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